tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-49193441074685342422024-02-20T15:22:14.161-08:00Dealing with Children who are argumentativeAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06053972988426938037noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4919344107468534242.post-49765946923010602852013-01-19T02:56:00.000-08:002013-01-19T02:56:16.466-08:00Dealing with Children who are argumentative<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<strong style="color: black; line-height: 1.5;">Society is changing at a fast pace. New technologies and latest techno gadgets are in ample supply to confuse children, especially the growing teens. Peer pressure makes them more and more restless and leaves them in a dilemma, and finally, at the end of the day, they are trapped into a situation of “to be or not to be”. And parents, who obviously are from an older generation, feel even more tense and probably helpless to deal with their teenage teens who answer them back, and are apparently becoming more and more argumentative. So what is the solution?</strong></div>
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<strong style="color: black; line-height: 1.5;">It is important to understand that today’s teenagers want to become independent. and hate interference of their parents. They start arguing with parents when their “privacy” is disturbed. They may not understand the rationale behind this unintended disturbance by their parents, but nonetheless, they think that it is below their dignity to try and understand the rationale behind the so-called “interference” by parents. And hence, it is necessary that to avoid arguments, parents remain calm and unargumentative when the children are not in receptive mood. As parent it is important to understand that children have no other tool to “justify” their demand or a certain “behavior” but react angrily to the “moral lectures” of parents. They react because they simply are not in agreement with the rules dictated by parents!! This does not mean that they have certain hatred for parents. They react because they think that as parents you do not understand them, their compulsions. So it is important for parents to try and be more communicative with children and understand their point of view rather than passing an order or giving an irrevocable judgment. Children should be given enough space to speak out their mind and intentions. Snubbing is no more the answer these days. Gone are the days when children used to listen to parents with a “there is not to reason why” attitude! The answer therefore is to be more communicative with children and create an environment for them to be more and more communicative with you, the way they are communicative with their friends. It is important to make them feel at ease while issues that make them argumentative are being addressed. It is necessary that as parents you stop making the environment more tense for the teenager by shouting and passing on your final decision over an issue for which you are sure is not going to be liked by him. Try to make a balance in a calm and congenial atmosphere and discuss things out, giving equal weight age to his point of view while simultaneously putting forth your views softly so that he can weigh the pros and cons and exercise his mind to understand you with a clear mind. This will not only address the current issue in a better way, but also create a healthier relationship between you and him!!</strong></div>
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